Men love sex, they want to have sex anytime they are in the mood but what they forget is that the person they need for this need to be met also has a set of needs.
Many men get married for sex without thinking of the needs of their wives. To them, their wives need to be like ever ready batteries. No need to be charged, ready for action anytime they need sex.
One of the statements men hate to hear from their wives is that, “I am not in the mood”. Another is “I am tired”. These same men become unhappy when their woman does not participate fully in the act.
A man is stressed from work and thinks one of the ways of de-stressing is to have sex. Sex has become a pain killer for some men, this is not the same for women. To be able to enjoy sex with your partner, it requires the two of you to have the same level of understanding.
Many men see sex as love because it’s their need and think once you care about them, you should meet their needs and doing that means you love them. Men need to understand that just as their body is different from that of women with different features, so are their hormones and so is sex.
Women are looking for connection, affection. A man she is secure with, a man she can open up to. You don’t give her gifts and money because you want to have sex with her.
She cannot open up for sex without feeling loved. Make her feel loved by being honest and loyal to her, by spending time with her. Make her feel she is very important to you.
Her body is not rigid like yours; she is soft so handle her with care and tenderness. She wants to be caressed; she wants to know how you see her and feel about her so compliment her always. She is more emotional and sensitive; she needs her man to be sensitive and pay attention to her emotions.
“I am not in the mood”, “I am tired”, “I don’t feel for sex” are some of her ways of saying my needs are not met to be able to meet your needs. Going out to look for someone outside is just a way of telling her you are insensitive, careless and selfish. Sex in marriage or relationship is not a duty but a need.
In conclusion, “Don’t do anything from selfish ambition or from a cheap desire to boast, but be humble toward one another, always considering others better than yourselves.” – Philippians 2:3 (GNT).
Source:Mybrytfmonline.com/Counsellor Adofoli
