Recently, I was honored to attend a program organized by one of my mentors; it was full of powerful and influential people who came to celebrate him on one of his latest achievements.
During one of the interactions, an interesting conversation came up about relationships with our partners and loved ones, and usually, very typical of me; BigGodwin, as I was the youngest in the gathering of that conversation, I will typically not say a word, all I do is listen to wisdom from these great achievers who are in their 50s, 60s, and 70s. Except when someone asks “BigG, say something”, or when I have a question to ask to learn more or seek clarification.
Many of these high achievers (all of them in this discussion were Men) unanimously agreed to one profound truth; that for the Success of a Man, the woman in your life is one major factor – it either propels you or slows you down tremendously.
Dr. Ernest Ofori Sarpong’s story was the one that caught me glued to my chair, I was so caught up with rapt attention that it was as though my heels were riveted to those shiny, immaculately-laid Spanish tiles in that Versace-themed lounge, looking across me was a well-manicured green lawn with visibly happy palm fronds whistling and dancing gently to the cool, evening breeze.
He has been married for 30 years, with three amazing kids; a pharmacist, a lawyer, and a medical doctor, he has had an awe-inspiring journey, but from the story, the significance of his wife in his empire was never lost on me, the shocking part of it was, he dated the wife only for about four months and they married, and they have been doing it together for 3 decades.
Some things were clear from all the discussions that were ongoing that, there were no guaranteed formulae to a long and blissful marriage, you can date someone for 5 years and marry and find out it’s your worst decision ever, you can date someone for 6 months and marry and it’s your biggest jackpot in your destiny – this thing is either by grace, by luck or some form of infrequent serendipity.
But here were some of my take-homes, they were more emphatic on how two great heads can achieve more and faster than one, and that for a man, having a supportive and helpful woman on your journey is priceless – but to increase your chances of hitting the bull’s eye and making the right choice, you have to overlook the things that excite your immediate senses – beauty, pretty face, curvy body, big ass, voluptuous boobs and whatever drives you nuts that affects your inner sense of instincts and judgment to be able to look 30 years down the line whilst you’re about to make a choice today.
It was clear to me from their conversations that, having a woman that you can hustle and build together with, is bliss, and far more rewarding than having a woman whose interest in being with you is the fact that she can get some regular Momo from you in exchange of Sexual satisfaction whenever you needed it.
As much as most women want comfort, they also want vision, they want loyalty, they want commitment, they want involvement, and they want to be carried along, if they know that you are on their side 24/7, they will also bring on board their best and be your haven the most powerful assurance women want is in your ability to commit wholeheartedly to them and them alone, and assure them of their safety with you – whilst you are on your mission to make enough money to deal with whatever situations come along.
Women are powerful multipliers, and when they are assured of your love, they can go all out for you, and that is priceless.
But not all of them are also of good intention or home training, so if you are unfortunate and enter the den of a wicked soul, your life will be far more miserable than had you just decided to run your race alone – because for a heartless soul, nothing you do is good enough as a man, and that is when you start getting drained by emptying yourself and never getting appreciated, that’s when all the bills are paid by you and you alone whilst your woman look on as you die slowly, and she keeps her income to herself for her alone and perhaps her family.
The lessons I left that program with are:
1. As life gets harder, it makes sense to find a partner with that you can both put ALL your cards on the table together and build purpose together with the oneness of mind.
2. Don’t marry for pleasure or orgasm, don’t marry for pulchritude, don’t marry because she is pregnant for you, don’t marry because society wants you to, don’t marry because you want someone who will cook and clean for you, marry for a vision, marry for life’s purpose, marry for partnership, marry a Destiny helper, when all the beauty fades in your 60s, 70s and all the kids are gone, what would be left is kindness, compassion, love, your friendship, and beauty of all you were able to accomplish together as partners and lovers.
3. If you found out on your life’s journey that you made a terrible choice and all effort to fix the error to realign your choice with your purpose has failed, and it is affecting your mental sanity and threatening your existence, that it’s driving you crazy so much that you have lost yourself on the journey of life all owing to the choice of a wrong partner you made, a U-turn is allowed, give yourself a second chance to live; some of the successful people in that gathering had lost their partners along the line and were either now unmarried or had re-United with a new partner that in their estimation, was more compatible and consistent with their life and destiny.
