Guys Need to Decompress
Woman’s view: When a man walks in the door, he ought to cough up some of the details about his day. After all, it’s been 10 hours since they’ve communicated, not counting the two whatsapp messages, three voice mails, and one actual mid-day call conversation.
Man’s view: Can I please make a beeline to the bathroom? When men reach home, it’s like those ultra-marathoners staggering across the finish line in Death Valley. The last thing they want to do discuss how bright the sunlight was, and how scarce the water stops were.
After they’ve spent a day serving the needs of others, they want to take care of themselves a little.
So, when a man is hit with a demand for conversation so closely after returning from the stressful environment of work, he has only one gear left to shift into, and it’s sometimes reverse.
He’s retreat, retreat, retreat.
Guys Are More Comfortable With Actions than Feelings
Rather than talking about how he ‘feels’, often a man would rather express his love changing her oil, or bringing home a flower, or relinquishing control of the remote. And when men do talk, they’d prefer to talk actions rather than emotions.
For instance, most guys would rather choose to express their long-range faith in a relationship by talking about next summer’s vacation plans, not by launching into a soliloquy about undying love.
Both conversations can mean the same thing (that he plans on sticking around); he just prefers to say it with gifts, rather than poetry. It’s one of the reasons men are more comfortable talking at work (the practical universe) than they are at home (the castle that emotion built). But you can bring out his great communicator by making him feel more like he is operating in work mode, even when the topic at hand is your love life.
What do you think?
Source: Uncle Ebo Whyte
